What does it really mean to be a "success" today?  

I hope that my 13 year-old son learns something about success from watching people in our government, and politicians, in general.   Not that I want him to follow their example, but rather, to learn what NOT to do.

Are there any role models left that we, and our children can look up to?  Someone who has integrity and is honest and puts others before themselves.? My daughter, who is 10, said today that she wants to see a news show on tv that shows all of the good things that happened and the kind acts that people have done around the world on that particular day.   She won't even watch the regular news channels. 

Maybe she's on to something.

Watching members of Congress trying to fix a "problem" is like watching a group of pre-schoolers.  It's as if they are all learning, for the first time, how to compromise and work together.  Sorry for being sarcastic, but quite frankly, it's difficult not to be.  

However, I for one am not going to feed in to all of this "crying" about the state of the country or the economy.  

One of the keys to my success is that for every wall that is put in front of me, there is a way of knocking it down, and I will stop at nothing until this is achieved.  

Road blocks in life and in our careers are normal.  

There is no "perfect" line from point A to point B. What is up with the mentality these days where people think that everything should and will run perfectly just because the times we are living in make everything available to us in an instant?  

Entitlement has become the norm for many, and it's about time that this mentality stops.

The government seems to have lost touch with the people that it's working for, and as I've said before in many of my blogs, once there is a blemish on someone's reputation,  it's going to take a lot to get our trust back.  

We all achieve small successes every day of our lives.  Whether its being able to pay our bills, closing a deal, getting home early enough to have dinner with our family,  or putting our kids through college. 

Success means different things to different people.  

In the business world, success is about more than just getting that deal or making that commission check.   It's about achieving a level of respect and being seen as trusted, loyal – someone that people will want to do business with based on who they are and what they stand for.  This is something that the United States Government, and many politicians, in general, are failing at.   They have lost our respect and are going to have to work hard to get it back.  

I know there are many who have lost their jobs, for no fault of their own.  However, if their "brand" and their reputation are clean, success is still within their reach. I hope that this blog empowers them and reminds them that we all have the strength to persevere.  And, what's most important is that we conduct ourselves with integrity, honesty, and empathy.  Having an untarnished reputation in the business world will get you everywhere these days, especially since most people don't seem to understand it's importance.  

Some of our greatest achievements and successes come out of the most difficult times.  The fact that Congress was "away" is just another slap in the face.    If you want success,  desperate times call for desperate measures, and all involved need to step up to the plate.  There should be no rest until progress is made, and solutions are put forth.   We are supposed to respect them, but where in the world is their respect, for us?

In case they forgot, here is what true leadership success is all about. 

While leadership is learned, the skills and knowledge processed by the leader can be influenced by traits, such as beliefs, values, ethics, and character. Knowledge and skills contribute directly to the process of leadership, while the other attributes give the leader certain characteristics that make him or her unique.

There are four major factors when talking about success in leadership:

1)  Leader –   You must have an honest understanding of who you are, what you know, and what you can do. Also, note that it is the followers, not the leader who determines if the leader is successful. If they do not trust or lack confidence in their leader, then they will be uninspired. To be successful you have to convince your followers, not yourself or your superiors, that you are worthy of being followed.

Different people require different styles of leadership.  For example, a new hire requires more supervision than an experienced employee. A person who lacks motivation requires a different approach than one with a high degree of motivation.Achieving success as a leader means that you must know your people! The fundamental starting point is having a good understanding of human nature, such as needs, emotions, and motivation. 

You lead through two-way communication. Much of it is nonverbal. For instance, when you “set the example,” that communicates to your people that you would not ask them to perform anything that you would not be willing to do. What and how you communicate either builds or harms the relationship between you and others.

All situations are different. What you do in one situation will not always work in another. You must use your judgment to decide the best course of action and the leadership style needed for each situation.  

  • BE a professional. Be loyal to the organization, perform selfless service, take personal responsibility.
  • BE a professional who possess good character traits. Examples: Honesty, competence,, commitment, integrity, courage, straightforwardness, imagination.
  • KNOW the four factors of leadership — follower, leader, communication, situation.
  • KNOW yourself. Strengths and weakness of your character, knowledge, and skills.
  • KNOW human nature. Examples: Human needs, emotions, and how people respond.
  • KNOW your job. Be proficient and be able to train others in their tasks.
  • KNOW your organization. Examples: where to go for help, its climate and culture, who the unofficial leaders are.
  • DO provide direction. Examples: goal setting, problem solving, decision making, planning.
  • DO implement. Examples: communicating, coordinating, supervising, evaluating.
  • DO motivate. Examples: develop morale and train, coach, counsel.

Being a success in business , and in our daily lives, these days takes a lot of hard work.  However, hard work, along with the information I've given you above, will get you the success that you deserve. We are all accountable for our actions….Maybe the government should be accountable, as well.